Woman Adventure. Men that come back to women they leave.

So i was sitting at work today with a woman who happens to be my supervisor and i was playing video games thinking about my blog when she started talking to me about how her ex-boyfriend called her yesterday. Immediately i knew i needed to write this down. She was with him for about seven months and about four months ago they broke up because he needed space and needed to get a few things in his life together. Shortly after he started talking to her again and made it seem like he was once again interested. She was kind of puzzled at first because it didnt seem to her like he had accomplished anything he told her he needed to before they could be together again, but he assured her all was well. Never the less she took him back. All was well. For about a week. He then started having money problems and it was stressing him out. He was living out side his means having to pay a car note and other bills that was draining his pay check. He didnt like the fact that she was taking care of him and so he ended it. He told her that he wasnt ready for a relationship. Needless to say she was hurt and very pissed off. Now we come to the present im sitting in our office and shes telling me about her ex calling yesterday. She told me it was obvious he wanted to talk to her and maybe see her. She was not having it. She was pissed still from last time. What i think this guy's issue was that he liked her but couldn't put his pride down to admit he was living above his means and let her help him. I think he knew wasnt ready for a relationship with anyone. But at the same time he really liked what they had together and so he was torn between wanting to be with her and knowing he shouldnt be with her and not trying to change for her. Now alot of people say if you really like some one or love some one then your problems shouldnt matter, but i disagree. It takes more than feelings to make a relationship happen. It takes alot of work and understanding on both peoples parts. What this guy needed to do after he broke up with her the first time was leave her alone. Don't call her, txt her, see her or anything. I know it is hard but it's not fair to her and its not fair to him. It will mess her up emotionally and it will mess him up emotionally. It's almost like an addiction where if you go back on it just once it will have you craving for it again. And all those things you need to do to get yourself ready for a relationship will be negated. Essentially what im saying is if you keep going back to something when you haven't matured enough to handle it, the result will be the same.

My First Blog.

Well i can remember about a week ago i was in my car making fun of blog's and bloggers and what i though was the stupidity of it all. A bunch of uniformed people putting out there opinions that are full of contradictions and references to political/hollywood rhetoric that they believe to be true facts. Ha! i could safely say i was more enlightened then most. Aparently not. I feel however I was put here on Al Gore's internet to help men. Like most men i am a man and being a man i know what is important to us. There really are only a few things: good food, a working toilet, sports (I do consider video games a sport. Go play halo for hours on end and tell me your fingers arent sore and your brow is not sweaty), and women. Now The first three are easy for men. Food problems? Go to Buffalo Wild Wings. Stomach problems? Go to the toilet. Bored? Play beer pong! Women problems? Hmm thats a lil tricky. I dont pretend to know all or even alot about women but what i can do is post what i have experienced in every day life. I am currently seeing a beautiful woman who recently has gone through a divorce. Iv seen pictures and iv heard stories and well i am not impressed. The guy is a tool. Bias? Duh. But that doesnt mean its not true. He left her in debt, with bad credit, a big headache and trust issues. I don't bring him up. Ever. And i am certain she apperciates this. However, on the times she does talk about him for what ever reason, maybe its because she is paying for his furniture because her name is still on the paper work or because he spilt beer on the divorce papers and now she has to get them again, I have made a few comments. Not many and not to violent, but ones that let her know that i support her, and that i value her, and that he was and is an idiot. Not to mention no where as good looking as me. I guess what im trying to tell you fellas is this. Wether or not your woman just got out of a bad relationship or just got fired your woman is perfect. you support her. you appericiate her. Tell her this. But please have some class and dont go up to her randomly and say this. Tell her when she needs it. Or be romantic with it. Don't be a tool.