Woman Adventure. Men that come back to women they leave.

So i was sitting at work today with a woman who happens to be my supervisor and i was playing video games thinking about my blog when she started talking to me about how her ex-boyfriend called her yesterday. Immediately i knew i needed to write this down. She was with him for about seven months and about four months ago they broke up because he needed space and needed to get a few things in his life together. Shortly after he started talking to her again and made it seem like he was once again interested. She was kind of puzzled at first because it didnt seem to her like he had accomplished anything he told her he needed to before they could be together again, but he assured her all was well. Never the less she took him back. All was well. For about a week. He then started having money problems and it was stressing him out. He was living out side his means having to pay a car note and other bills that was draining his pay check. He didnt like the fact that she was taking care of him and so he ended it. He told her that he wasnt ready for a relationship. Needless to say she was hurt and very pissed off. Now we come to the present im sitting in our office and shes telling me about her ex calling yesterday. She told me it was obvious he wanted to talk to her and maybe see her. She was not having it. She was pissed still from last time. What i think this guy's issue was that he liked her but couldn't put his pride down to admit he was living above his means and let her help him. I think he knew wasnt ready for a relationship with anyone. But at the same time he really liked what they had together and so he was torn between wanting to be with her and knowing he shouldnt be with her and not trying to change for her. Now alot of people say if you really like some one or love some one then your problems shouldnt matter, but i disagree. It takes more than feelings to make a relationship happen. It takes alot of work and understanding on both peoples parts. What this guy needed to do after he broke up with her the first time was leave her alone. Don't call her, txt her, see her or anything. I know it is hard but it's not fair to her and its not fair to him. It will mess her up emotionally and it will mess him up emotionally. It's almost like an addiction where if you go back on it just once it will have you craving for it again. And all those things you need to do to get yourself ready for a relationship will be negated. Essentially what im saying is if you keep going back to something when you haven't matured enough to handle it, the result will be the same.